Interpersonal Conflict: Why did you behave in such a weird manner?

"Interpersonal conflict is a situation in which one or both persons in a relationship are experiencing difficulty n working or living with each other.This usually occurs due to different or incompatible needs,goals or styles."(Fisher R., The American University, 2000).I am no exception with this situation in my life.I was in grade V when something like this occurred for the first time in my life.

It was month of July, 2001.The students of my class were noisy as always when suddenly a newbie entered the classroom with our class teacher.She was introduced and the teacher called top 5 students of the class to help her complete her work. I was among those top 5. Thus, during recess we all went to her to ask about her, and her doubts. We soon became good friends. I must say she was brilliant as well as very active in class, in studies as well as in sports. I considered myself way behind her. But I was satisfied with myself as I used to do work with all that I could.

The tests started. I was good in science related subjects so I was confident and comfortable in scoring high marks in them. The results were out. I did better than her in all these subjects( science and related) but overall she topped the class. I was happy to see a newcomer being the topper in the first attempt itself. It encouraged me to do more hard work. I went to applaud her for her achievement. After all, we were good friends. But she looked more disappointed and surprised with her results, eventually saw my some of the marks and went away. I was baffled. I thought about the matter but could not understand it.

The mid terms approached.My score was better than previous time but she topped again. I again went to her to congratulate but she went away without saying a word. We had not talked since the day of previous test's result.I wondered what happened again. She had a very furious look when she saw me approaching her. From that day she started ignoring me and even all of her friends. I realized that this had begun since the day I got few marks more than her. But I could not understand if this was the matter as she was the topper till now. I was annoyed and did not care much about the matter

I was confused with this matter until something staggering happened. I managed to top the class( which was unbelievable). Parents were called to meet up to show papers in front of them. I went with my father and sister. We were going through my mistakes when I heard a voice," Show me all of your papers!". It was her and she sounded so demanding and rude. My sister and father were astonished. But I kept my nerve and gave her the papers. After all , I still considered her as my friend(though I was not sure on her part). Her mother took those papers, and went straight to the class teacher and started arguing why her daughter had got less marks than him. The girl was also involved. The class teacher gave a simple remark," She has got marks for what she has written, same is with Shivam".

I felt very bad to think of this as a reason of all things happened till now.I was agitated and keeping my nerve, went to ask the papers and came back. I apologized to my father and sister for such embarrassment in class. I even thought of never talking to her and could no longer continue my friendship.

I still cannot find any way to overcome that interpersonal conflict , if it occurs again. What could be better way to deal with such situations? I wonder I would know this at that time. After all, its the outcome of such situation which best describes one's diligence and ability to behave in a proper way.

Importance of effective professional communication in my LIFE!!!!!

Hello everyone. We often think of some of the questions like: “ Did I converse well in front of them? , Did I host the show effectively?, Did I entertained my colleagues with proper reasoning?” and so on. Even one of the most nocturnal element of our society, the scientist, sometimes thinks whether his seminar was well enlightened by him or not. We find that the art of effective communication covers each and every one of us. I am also not an exception. It is one of the most integral part of myself.

With the help of effective communication, I can converse well with others and exchange my thoughts and ideas to a greater extent. It gives me a form of self-awareness to employ adequate principles to speak with correct grammar and pronunciation. I accept I am still learning and will learn this art throughout my life as it cannot be mastered with so many direct and indirect elements related to it.

Few common activities, in this regard, includes public speaking, talking to cross-cultural people , writing e-mails to friends, colleagues, employees and interviews. Proficient command over English language will help me to gain confidence and speak in front of audience. I can easily mingle with people of diverse cultures. It is very important for any individual to learn how to write letters, e-mails etc. to friends , professional people and even to seek jobs. The methodology is very different in each case so the “art” must be understood to deal with each scenario. I find it very applicable to my case and most of my fellow mates. I would like to share one of my experiences. I had to give a short speech of not more than 90 seconds to run for two positions(Director and subordinate).I planned well how to share my strengths humbly , but with more confidence and gestures. I would also make them laugh and other candidates to be at ease. However, I screwed up everything at the stage and just spoke everything like a mere speech. I was given the subordinate position. I learned that practicing well in front of the mirror does not help you if you do not possess effective communication within your friends and people you don’t know. It was a great lesson taught to me and I still make efforts to improve my communication skills.

I have also realized the importance of blogging as it helps to share my thoughts, improving writing skills and realizing flaws and mistakes upon receiving comments. It has helped me even to go through research papers and analyze the data.

Overall, from my point of view, effective communication forms foundation of higher learning and understanding. I want to learn it as far as I can which would greatly help me to express what I actually need to without being nervous. This would ensure greater social and successful life for me.